Fri 16.5.2025.
At 12.30 p.m. Wednesday 14.5.2025, in Room 4, Ward 7 HTJ Seremban, Dato' Ahmad Tajuddin bin Ujang succumbed to the second stroke he had before Subuh prayers on Sunday at home 10 days earlier, on Sunday 4.5.2025. His remains were interred at the cemetry in Taman Zaitun, Sikamat after the Asr prayers of the same tragic day, Praise the Lord. Second surviving son, Kamal, led the funeral prayers as well as the Talqin. Bangdek breathed his last in front of his wife, and younger sister, Nodi. They said Bangdek went quietly, peacefully. From Him we come, to Him we return.
Many brothers and sisters necessitated the moniker "abang adik" or both "older brother" and "younger brother" combined. Of course this was eventually shortened to "Bangdek".
Among the closest surviving kin, I'm the oldest who knew him longest, back to 1950-56, when our fathers, both from NS, were teaching at the SITC Tg. Malim. Idah, a sister and later my wife, was born in 1950. Bangdek was born in April 1941, making him exactly 84 when he died.
This year we spent the entire Ramadan praying at all the "waktus" except Magrib together, and mostly very close together, at the Sg. Landak mosque. I'd made an effort to do all my prayers (except Magrib) at the mosque each Ramadan.. As far as I know, Bangdek performed all of his at the mosque, even bringing along his breaking of fast meals, something I couldn't do. But while I stopped after Ramadan, Bangdek maintained his practice. This late in his life, he was determined to finish his days as a pious Muslim. Earlier this year he also went for the umrah, before Ramadan. I've lost count how many times he'd done his umrah. I'd only done it once, poor me.
Our lives and work, Bangdek and I, had crossed paths often and intertwined much.
In school and into early retirement years, Bangdek was a great sportsman. At MES, Tg. Malim he already made his mark as one of the few Malays playing cricket, and playing it very well. Tennis came a bit later, but lasted until retirement. He was a classy player, with those beautiful swings of classic tennis. He was very good at it, playing for school, college and his senior team when at work. So when golf came more seriously towards retirement, it was an easy switch. Like tennis, his golf also was classy - those easy swings coming naturally to him. I say these because I watched, and in golf played countless rounds with him until he had to stop because of his compressed spine. Then, as part of the attempted remedy, he was a regular morning swimmer at the SIGC pool, until his handicap forced stoppage. I've been an SIGC member since 1978 (47 years ago). but I've never entered the swimming pool even once.
We even shared the same neighbourhoods several times.
There was Kampong Baru, KL in the 60's. I'd just joined Felda from my Melaka first job, and was staying with Aziz (Dr.,Tan Sri ex RRI, now Chairman of Majlis Ugama Islam NS) on Jalan Mahmud. We experienced May 13 there, and Kampong Baru was one of the hot spots. Bangdek was staying at Kak Zawiah's house on the same road. I never mer Bangdek or Kak Zawiah there, but met the late Aji, his younger brother, several times, walking past our rented house. We'd stop him and chit-chat.
Then it was Jalan 4 C Ampang Jaya, and we stayed on the very same road. That's how I met, again, with Idah, and met Ari and Kak Zawiah and the late Pin, the eldest boy. This was 1970, I think. Some years later Bangdek moved to "Juwita", on the other road across 4 C, but this one his own. Ai "Ci O Lady" the Singapore nephew, lived with him then.
Then my first stay at "Fortune Garden" saw me and Bangdek as neighbours again, but by then I was already married to Idah.
My second move to this housing estate saw the name-change to what it is now, Taman Dato Shahbandar, but Bangdek also moved to his present address at Jalan Indah, having bought it. By then Bangdek was the State Secretary, the top job in the state, and I was the State Assemblyman for Senaling, KP, but staying in my newly bought Jalan Aman house here in Seremban. He helped me get my pistol licence.
When we were in KL in those days, before PLUS and the current hellish traffic jams, Saturdays would find us on the Bukit Putus meandering pass to KP together, many times, though never planned. I was in my Fiat 124, and I'd come up to an old Citroen taking his time, recognizing it straightaway. It was Bangdek. Once he also drove a Volvo sports car. but I don't think he ever found out the top speed.
When I was still just a senior officer in Felda hq, and we were in Ampang Jaya, Bangdek called once asking to arrange an appointment with the DG. Bangdek was with the Agriculture Department, or Ministry. After his meeting we spoke for a while. That's when he said "Faridah ada kat rumah". Was that an invitation ? I knew her even before university, because my mother's house is very close to TKS where Idah went. Anyway, one day (a Sunday) I'd just came back from a date, and it was around 6 pm, and Idah sauntered in front of the house just as I was taking off my shoes. I looked up, greeted her, put my shoes on again, and took her for a spin. That was the start of a now 53-year story. This month she'll be three-quarters of a century old !
We visited when those days Bangdek was at the Federal Hill and Jalan Pekeliling quarters. By then Ijoi had joined them. Nodi was in Jalan Permai, Taman Dato' Shahbandar.
At the mosque when arranging for the washing of the remains of Bangdek, I called Hank and informed him about Bangdek. He had remained active with the OPA. In fact the morning he was taken to HTJ he had the yellow OPA tee shirt on. Later Nawi called, when I was at the cemetry, to get details about the sad news. I'd seen the posting on our website later, and saw the sad responses.
I've not just lost a brother-in-law. He was a friend. May God Bless his soul, Amin
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